Christmas are approaching! Isn’t the idea time to celebrate? Not for everybody. If you are single fearing being alone during the holidays, ones might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No period of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If only I had someone to come to be with, things would have recently been different”, you whisper to yourself time and again.
The secret to make sure you doing so is developing Self-Awareness: getting to understand why you were not able to develop a successful intimacy so far; what made you will fail in your relationships as yet. Is it really so that you basically didn’t come across partners who were good enough for you? Is it genuinely so that there were “external conditions” which made it impossible so you might develop and maintain a successful closeness?
Using the excursions to think these over could help you understand the true reasons for your failures. You might find, for example, that you have patterns of behaviors that repeat themselves throughout the necessary past-relationships which always induced conflicts between you and your partners.
Or you might find away that you haven’t been successful locating a partner until now not simply because no “suitable” partner got here your way, but because you ended up being over-afraid about developing a long-term serious relationship (for one reason or another); or simply that you are so needy and dependent on whomever you went with that they terminated their bond; or that you were so controlling and demanding more and more of your dates just terminated your attempts to getting nearer and maybe even to transferring together.
What makes you think that between occasionally a miracle will happen and out-of-the-blue you will have a wonderful bond? If you have been failing during having a wonderful relationship as yet, what are the odds that you will flourish in having one next 365 days?
Using the holidays’ the perfect time to figure out what are the true reasons for your inability to have a serious, meaningful, satisfying intimacy, is mostly a time well-spent. The insights you’ll gain will provide help to find a suitable partner by means of whom to develop and maintain a very good intimacy.
The odds probably do not succeed in your favour! Therefore, it can be up to you to do something about your situation. Therefore, you may want to operate the holidays this year to figure out how to make a change for next 365 days! How can you use this year’s holiday seasons to become able to have a relationship next year?
Use the holidays to figure out how not to become alone next year. You might think that such advice can be ridiculous. Why to think about up coming year when this year’s holidays are approaching? The reason is simple: if you have been single for a long time, what guarantee do you have that you will not be sole next year as well?
Could it really be that you just did all you could to get a partner with whom to formulate a good relationship but don’t have luck? Well, all of these can serve you as good reasons and rationalizations to not becoming successful. But is it really the circumstance? Or could there be other reasons for your failed attempts? Could it be that some thing in you hinders and prevents you from developing a successful relationship?